I think I made a couple of new friends this week, but time will tell.
I moved overseas years ago–What I realized about myself
One thing China didn’t prepare me for was how much I’d grow as a person.
Having four months off courtesy of Covid made me really stop and think about what made me happy—what kind of job I really wanted, how I wanted my work days to look like, what would make me content.
Living here also made me realize how strong I could be both mentally and physically. It made me realize I could adapt.
I would soak in sweat as I climbed up several flights of stairs because there wasn’t an elevator. And I was carrying a 30 pound bag. Textbooks, papers to hand back, handouts, pens, pencils, extra paper and my computer and charger. The classrooms have computers, but they are in Chinese. And they don’t have VPNs. I also don’t have to log in on my own laptop.
I’d deal with loneliness by writing long Facebook message to friends back home. I’d be productive—write blog posts, take pictures, edit videos, make videos, clean, make crafts, whatever.
I’d mix ketchup with wasabi paste, then horseradish, if I could find it, to make cocktail sauce before I discovered Baopals and could finally order it.
I discovered I could live without Taco Bell and Wendy’s and Arby’s and Cheddar’s Scratch Kitchen Monte Cristo sandwiches. I finally did experience Taco Bell in China after a few years of living here. I could finally make Wendy’s Apple Pecan Chicken Salad after finally finding Granny Smiths after about four years here. I finally made a Monte Cristo sandwich too, but it’s labor-intensive. Finding turkey isn’t as easy as going to the store—I have to order turkey online.
It made me realize how frugal I could be.
It made me realize it’s harder for me to tolerate bullshit.
It’s made me take a lot of stuff with a grain of salt. If I’m criticized, or praised, it doesn’t really mean much to me. The culture here is designed for positivity, not negativity. So if you really want to know if you are a good teacher or not, you won’t ever know. But I’m realizing as a teacher, I’m a bit unforgettable. And that’s something, at least.
It’s made me realize weight loss is possible, and maybe because the food choices are limited. There isn’t as much crap. So if you are struggling with weight in the states, they’ve designed it that way. I’ve dropped 40 pounds with no real conscious effort on my part. When you have to walk to the bus stop twice a day, walk from the school gate to your classroom for about 10 minutes, climb four flights of stairs during the day, and you skip lunch, because you’d rather sleep than eat, the weight tends to go.
It’s made me realize how stubborn and stupid I can be.
It’s made me regret not leaving sooner. Because I feel like the world has opened up, after nearly a lifetime of sameness and dullness, of not making progress, of not growing, to realize change can happen.
I want to be financially comfortable.
I want to develop a classic style in my wardrobe.
I want peace.
I don’t want stress.
It made me realize I can appreciate nicer things even if I can’t afford them. Like a Jaguar. Or a pair of Gucci loafers, and yes, I may buy a pair of used ones someday.
It made me realize I want to be surrounded by beauty, quality, and goodness—not ugliness, cheapness, and bad behavior.
It made me realize I’m not as American as I thought I was—and that I am more American than I thought I was.
Working here has been a challenge, but daily life is absolutely fine.
So if you’re thinking about moving overseas, give it a shot.
You may surprise yourself.
I continue to do that every day.
Part one: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/10/thinking-of-leaving-the-u-s-this-is-how-i-did-it/
Part two: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/11/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part three: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/12/i-moved-overseas-five-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part four: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/13/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it-2/
Part five: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/14/i-left-the-country-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part seven: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/18/i-left-the-us-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part eight: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/19/thinking-of-leaving-the-u-s-spoiler-alert-men-exist-here-too/
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Thinking of Leaving the U.S.? Spoiler Alert: Men Exist Here Too
China’s Human Rights Record
Recently, I was criticized for “spamming” a Facebook page with my posts about moving to China.
I usually try to send a message to page administrators telling them I’ve lived abroad for a few years now and if I could post about my experiences.
One woman took me to task about posting about my experiences in China because of China’s human rights record.
I won’t comment on that. She also criticized me for posting when some women are trying to escape the patriarchy and China wasn’t the best place to go.
Here’s the thing: men aren’t going away. Unless women can establish their own country, men are going to be there. However, as a middle-aged white woman living in China, I have to say I have not had Chinese men expose themselves to me, or physically/verbally abuse me. I have had men treat me like crap, but they were expats.
Living the Overseas Lifestyle
So I shared my experience because I’m selfish, but I also want to help. I’ve been writing my blog about living in China for five and a half years. I barely have any subscribers. I post about a variety of things once a week, but never had any interest.
Then the election happened, and women think The Handmaid’s Tale is going to happen in real time starting January 20, 2025. Women (and some men) are sick of the United States and want out. And since I’ve been living the overseas lifestyle for a while, I wanted to let people know it’s not perfect.
I didn’t want to sugar-coat my experiences here. But the good has outweighed the bad.
“I Got What I Want, So Fuck Off and Die”
–It’s very safe here.
–No guns means you don’t have to worry about being shot
–Not many drugs mean people aren’t strung out doing goofy shit
–A general sense of “we have to cooperate and be civil” as opposed to “I got what I want, so fuck off and die.”
A reasonable cost of living—things are like a third of what they would cost in the United States. (I got a pair of sunglasses and regular glasses and the total was less than $100.)
Seemingly no “bad neighborhoods.”
Very few if any homeless—culture and affordable housing play a huge role.
People are nice.
Men (even expats) usually steer clear of me.
Personal growth I’ve never experienced before in my life prior to coming to China.
Yes, there’s men here. And crap does happen. But as I said earlier, unless women can have their own country without men, we’re going to have to deal with them.
I’m only posting to give those seriously thinking about leaving a taste of what life will be like if they do decide to move to China. If you can do it for four years, opt for that. Want to stay longer? That’s your choice too, as long as you’re under a certain age.
Part one: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/10/thinking-of-leaving-the-u-s-this-is-how-i-did-it/
Part two: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/11/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part three: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/12/i-moved-overseas-five-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part four: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/13/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it-2/
Part five: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/14/i-left-the-country-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part seven: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/18/i-left-the-us-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
I Left the US Years Ago–Here’s How I Did It:
KEEPING YOUR SANITY AS AN EXPAT
A lesser person would have quit by now. I’ve been through a lot here, but the good has slightly outweighed the bad. Still, it hasn’t been easy.
Here are some things I do in order to cope.
I watch a LOT of YouTube. It’s a good way to save money. There’s tons of really interesting content on there. I’m especially fans of channels that react to shows, specifically 90 Day Fiancé and its many spin-offs, as well as And Just Like That, the messed-up Sex and the City reboot who tried to force us to like a non-binary character with the worst personality of anyone who has ever appeared on television. There’s also lots of really good documentaries about things the mainstream news is not covering. Sometimes it’s nice to hear English spoken, and I’ve fallen into the habit of going to sleep with YouTube on.
A Lot of Walking
I do a lot of walking. I kind of have to. But even so, I go out on the weekends and do a lot of urban exploration. Sometimes I get pleasant surprises, like seeing a copy shop, or a familiar restaurant, or a knick-knack store. I’d also like to start swimming again if I can find a good pool close by. In the meantime, I’m doing yoga. I don’t necessarily enjoy it, but I’ve noticed I feel different when I do it. I try not to drink, although when things were bad, I’d dump a fair amount of Absolut Citron into lemonade, or Coca-Cola to relieve the tension. A friend back home was worried at how much I was drinking, but things have improved and I can’t remember the last time I had a drink.
I Take Lots of Pictures, Write, and do Crafts
Create. I am a very creative person. So I take lots of pictures, write, and work with craft items when the urge to make something hits. I made a paper sculpture with lights when I was inspired by a museum display. I don’t think what I did was very original, but it would make a nice nightlight. It’s strange, because pictures of it look better than the sculpture does in person. I also make jewelry out of magazine pages. I may start making stuff out of toilet paper and paper towel tubes. My photography gives me a lot of pleasure. I don’t know what it is about China, but I feel my photographic eye has gotten so much better. I’ve taken pictures that make me gasp, and I’m one picky bitch.
Stay away from negativity. Whether it’s from back home, or from people nearby, don’t engage with people who annoy you.
Expats are Weird
Expats are weird. I’ve had some bad experiences with them. From pampered princess types, to condescending, clueless academic snobs who think Cinnamon Toast Crunch is “good” cereal. I’ve also had really good experiences with expats as well. I’ve met the nicest guy I’ve ever met in my life, and as a result, I’ve been interested in how he got that way. Buddhism. I freak out at the smallest stuff, but this guy is zen through terrible teaching experiences. I admire him so much for that. I’ve also met a few other people that are really wonderful. But I’m reluctant to reach out to expats, so I don’t.
Journal. I’ve kept a journal every day I’ve been here. I plan to write a book someday about my experiences.
I’ve Learned As Much About Myself in the Last Five Years than in the Previous 51
Personal growth. Sometimes I feel I’ve learned as much about myself in the last five years as I did in 51 years of living in the states. I asked myself some hard questions during the pandemic and the unexpected four month vacation I had about what I wanted out of life and what made me truly happy. My self-esteem is still a bit precarious, but it has increased so much. I don’t feel as sensitive about things. There might be some things I will never have, but there are things I can control. Personal clothing style. My weight. Who I choose to spend time with. And maybe, just maybe, it’s not too late for some of the things I want.
Late to the party???
Part one: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/10/thinking-of-leaving-the-u-s-this-is-how-i-did-it/
Part two: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/11/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part three: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/12/i-moved-overseas-five-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part four: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/13/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it-2/
Part five: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/14/i-left-the-country-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
I Left the U.S. Years ago–Here’s How I did it–BURNING QUESTIONS: What you should know before moving abroad
Do I have to be fluent in Chinese?
1.Do I have to be fluent in Chinese in order to teach in China?
No! Not at all. Although it helps if you learn Chinese, lots of people use language apps. It helps if you say, “Dui bu qi, wo de zhongwen bu hao.” Phonetically, you’d say, “Dway boo chee, whoa day chongwen boo how.”
It means, “Sorry my Chinese is bad.” Usually people will say, “mesa” which means, “no worries.” They will whip out their translation apps and you can communicate together. WeChat has a great and accurate translation feature, so if the other person is willing, you can add them and speak through the app.
What qualifications do I need?
2. What qualifications do I need to teach in China?
At least a four-year (bachelor’s) degree in ANYTHING, a 120-hour TEFL/TESOL certificate, and a clean criminal record. If you’ve raped or murdered someone, or you have a record of inflicting domestic abuse on someone, that will probably ruin your chances. You should probably be under 55. The government is changing the retirement age, but it seems to be 60 for both men and women for now. I’m 57 and I’m obviously still teaching. Exceptions are sometimes made, depending on how hard it is to get a visa for the province you are teaching in.
Do I need a lot of money?
3. Do I need a lot of money to start with?
Depends on what you mean by a “lot of money.” I think I came over here with about $3,000, but ran out and had to borrow from my school. However, I did pay them back and I’ve been solvent ever since, even through some challenging circumstances.
That being said, to be on the safe side, you’d want to arrive with at least $5,000. And you should have an emergency fund started, so you can access that money. Always have at least enough saved for a plane ticket home if things get too tough.
Do I need any previous teaching experience?
4. Do I need any previous teaching experience?
No, although any sort of experience teaching/working with young people is good. I had two weeks of training when I started at my first job. However, after that, there wasn’t much training at all, which was really frustrating.
Should I sell my house if I decide to teach overseas?
5. I own a house. Should I sell it if I decide to teach overseas?
No. I would see if you can rent it out, if you have a mortgage on it, or have a trusted friend/neighbor keep an eye on it, if you don’t decide to rent it. If you belong to a church, maybe you can have your house serve as emergency housing for someone who needs it. Sell your stuff, or put it into storage. While a lot of people stay overseas for a very long time, and sometimes decide to stay permanently, your experience may not be that great. Same with the cars. Consider loaning/renting vehicles out if you can. If you decide to do this, call your insurance agent and get the proper coverage needed.
I have several mental illnesses and conditions. Will this be an issue?
6. I have several mental illnesses/conditions and need meds. Will this be an issue?
It might. It depends on what medicines and mental health support you need. While mental illness is recognized more and more among young people here, culturally, people don’t discuss it much. You probably won’t get much sympathy if you need to take a few days off. And living in China can be bewildering, even after a few years. If you’re easily triggered, moving to China may not be the best fit. Of course, maybe some of the stressors that bother you back home may not bother you here. For example, I feel very, very safe. I don’t have to worry about being shot here. And people are very chill. I learned how to deal with things by myself because I’ve had to. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy, because it most certainly isn’t.
I’m Overweight. Is there mobility assistance?
7. I’m overweight. Is there mobility assistance for people there?
If by “mobility assistance” you mean those shopping scooters you see at Walmart, I would say no. I call China, “The Land of the Stairs.” Because there are many, many, many stairs here. You’ll also have to walk quite a ways, because the subway stations are huge. That being said, I lost around thirty pounds the first year, and lost another 10 in the past couple years or so. My physical activity has really increased because I had no choice in the matter. If you can’t get around too easy because you’re really overweight, you won’t get a lot of sympathy. If you do say something, a response might be, “If you lost some weight, you wouldn’t have this problem.” Chinese people are pretty polite, but on the other hand, they don’t have to make concessions for really overweight people here, because honestly, you really don’t see a lot of ginormous people here. There are no plus-size stores or sections. You’re lucky if you can find an XL if you shop at H&M or Uniqlo. And if you go to the Great Wall and you’re overweight, take the Mutanyu location and opt for the ski lift up to the wall. Because if you climb the stairs to the Great Wall, (about an hour) once you get there, there are even more steps. Do yourself a favor and drop about 20 pounds or so. Trust me on this one.
What are restaurants like?
8. What are restaurants like?
Lots of McDonald’s and Starbucks and KFC. There’s even Burger King. But Taco Bell will be nonexistent unless you’re in Beijing or Shanghai. Most restaurants here are small, cozy places with basic seating—stools. Pick a place where they have pictures of the dishes. Then, take a photo of it and show it to the staff. If they serve you water, it will be warm. Ice is not a thing here. Free refills are also not a thing here. There won’t be salt or pepper on the table, either. But you’ll probably pay $3 or less for a plate of food and bottled water. If you eat like a native, you’ll save money.
Is it weird living under communism?
9. Is it weird living under communism?
Not really. I’m not over here to stir up trouble. I don’t talk about the government. I have had at least one person say she was tired of the way the government was handling the Covid situation. But this was after about a year of showing our health codes when we went out in public. I showed my health code and didn’t complain about it. I’ve also noticed people here are very motivated by money. Lots of people, old and young, sell stuff on the street corners or the beaches. It seems like over here, you’re more likely to get free stuff in the form of samples. Like, if you go to the grocery store, you’ll see glass mugs taped to six packs of yogurt. Or you might get a free tote bag for Women’s Day, courtesy of Lay’s Potato Chips. If you’re old enough to remember the free stuff you got back in the 1970s, from records on the back of cereal boxes, to free samples of products in the mail, that’s sort of what the vibe is like. I’ve had to pay for my apartments until my current job where my apartment is free. And it’s a new apartment, too. As long as you don’t criticize the government here, or wave a flag that says, “Capitalism Rocks!” you’ll probably be fine.
Are Apartments Expensive?
10. Are apartments expensive?
Depends on if you want to live in the center of Beijing, or if you want to live in a tier two or tier three city. I will say every apartment I’ve had has been fairly convenient, with a grocery store down the street, and also several restaurants and a pharmacy. The most I paid for an apartment was $910 a month, at the fifth outer ring of Beijing. The least amount I’ve paid has been nothing. In Xiamen, the rent for me came around $392 for a two bedroom in Jimei district, with a plenty big living/dining area. When I lived on Xiamen island, the same price would get me a one bedroom apartment, with a bathroom and a kitchen. Stuff will cost more on the island. But even working a low-paying pre-kindergarten teaching job (making approximately 14,000 rmb a month or $1,960 USD) meant I had more than enough to rent an apartment. And this has been the first time in my life I have been able to pay rent on my own.
Is it hard getting around?
11. Is it hard getting around?
I took a lot of buses and Didi (Chinese Uber) when I lived in Xiamen for the first time. But it wasn’t until Beijing that I took the time to learn how to ride the subway. It wasn’t hard, because the subway is in both Chinese and English. Also, on my Apple phone, it took me years to discover this, but on Apple maps, you type in a destination and it will tell you how long it is to drive there, take the Didi, the subway, the bus, or to walk it. Sometimes there aren’t any subway options, but it seems there’s a bus option or vice versa. Didi runs about $5 or 6 for my usual route to get to the other campus. The bus is crazy cheap—like 14 to 28 cents a ride. Every trip I’ve taken in China to another city I’ve used high-speed rail. It’s very relaxing.
Will people stare at me?
12. Will people stare at me?
Sometimes. Sometimes people will ask to take a picture with you because they have never seen a foreigner before in person, or maybe they’ve never met an American. This is your chance to feel like a celebrity! This doesn’t happen to me a lot, but it’s fun when it does.
Is it safe to walk around at night?
13. I’m a single female. Is it safe to walk around at night?
Super safe! China is not exactly a late night country. But I’ve walked from a bar back to my apartment in Beijing past midnight because I just felt like walking. No one bothered me. Very close to my apartment a police officer did talk to me, but I think he was concerned I was out so late. But aside from him, no one else spoke to me when I was out.
Will people harass me?
14. Will people harass me because I’m not Chinese?
I don’t think so. It might be different if you are African-American, however. But no one has gotten into my face and said, “You’re in China, speak Chinese!” (not that I would know what that sounds like because my Chinese is so bad, LOL) but people are very zen here. You might see the occasional argument or fist fight, but you can rest easy that guns won’t be involved. There might be machetes/knives, however. But people try not to embarrass each other here (saving face culture). So people might stare at you, but mostly it isn’t out of hostility. It’s probably because they don’t see foreigners on a regular basis.
Is the water drinkable?
15 Is the water drinkable?
Not from the tap. Buy bottled, or boil the water. And remember, if you want ice-cold water, do this: Freeze bottles of water at home. Then add a little bit of water to them so the added water stays cold for a while.
Part one: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/10/thinking-of-leaving-the-u-s-this-is-how-i-did-it/
Part two: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/11/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part three: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/12/i-moved-overseas-five-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part four: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/13/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it-2/
Part five: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/14/i-left-the-country-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
I moved overseas years ago this is how I did it–What it’s like to teach here (your experiences may vary)
Fired for not using enough pictures
A friend of mine had to wait five years before he got to China. I’d chat with him on WeChat about the challenges I’ve had. I warned him it wasn’t easy. He finally made it a little over a year ago and was fired the first week they gave him a permanent classroom. The reason? Parents watching his performance from home claimed he wasn’t using enough pictures.
He’s since moved on and has another job.
Part of the problem is cultural differences.
Your specialty is English? You’ll teach math and science
The assumption is that the more education you have the more experience you have and can handle anything that is thrown your way. You’ll automatically know every LMS there is to know. You’ll be an expert in Excel and know how to put formulas together. If you admit you’re math challenged, you’ll be told, “don’t say that” and be faced with a bewildering grading system. If your specialty is English, they will have you teach math and science (my first job). I said I shouldn’t be teaching anyone math OR science, but I was blown off by the American who was training me. Meanwhile, I was the target of a bitter co-worker who majored in biology, but was tasked with teaching her kids English, instead of math OR science.
I tried to make my classes interesting. I had hands-on science experiments and gave my oldest students their own tomato plants to grow in greenhouses I made myself and installed in my classroom. Math was frustrating because it seemed like I’d have kids added on a regular basis, and I never knew how much math they knew. So I was stuck on how to progress. And of course, no one gave me any tips.
“You’ll figure it out”
Training can range from two weeks, including lots of paperwork and observations, to four hours in a Starbucks, with vague instructions. You’ll be instructed to read a class novel with no reference to how to obtain the source material. And you’ll be told the students can “figure it out.” If there is one phrase I HATE it’s being told, it’s “you’ll figure it out.” I usually do, but sometimes it takes days, weeks, months, or decades. I usually seem to get the hang of what they want shortly after I’m fired.
I’ve been bitten on the job. I’ve been fondled by kids who “don’t mean anything by it” but if I was told not to do something as a kid, I didn’t do it. To this day, I always wash my hands after handling money. Dad pounded this behavior into my head anytime I played with my coin collections, or handled paper money. So that shit sticks with you. Little kids touching my butt or breasts is NOT cool. Those are private places. As a kid, I didn’t feel my mom up OR my dad. There were certain places you don’t touch.
A Student Attacked Me…
I’ve had my ponytail yanked from behind because a child whom I’d been working with and making progress with was being promoted to the next grade—and he wasn’t happy about it. He came from an unstable home and had behavior problems. But having your kid move up a grade is a big deal here. It doesn’t matter he’s getting attention and behaving better and making works of art. I was furious that he had attacked me, but when it was explained why he did that, I just felt sorry for the kid.
I never worked with him again. I hope he’s okay and making great works of art.
Don’t Point Out Autistic Kids
Don’t point out autistic kids. Just work with them the best you can.
When I noticed a student in my Guangzhou class exhibiting spectrum-like behavior, I didn’t say anything, even though my boss felt something was up about this particular kid.
When you put your foot down for bad behavior on the students’ part, I was the one who got in trouble.
Sleeping in Class is a Problem
Sleeping in class is a problem at the high school level. And yes, teachers were blamed for this. Chinese students start working very hard for very long hours at an early age. I feel sorry for them, but this ultra-competitive system means if they are able to go to college in the United States, they WILL graduate and kick ass in the process. Why will students argue for a 93 when a 92 is high enough? It’s because not everyone gets into college in China.
China Simply Doesn’t Have the Resources…
I asked one of my students and they explained. China simply doesn’t have the resources to send everyone to college, she said, so the spots go to the best and the brightest. In the United States, we don’t have that problem. Even if you barely graduated high school, or dropped out, if you want to go to college, you CAN. You might be placed in remedial courses in order to catch up, but if you really want to go to college, in the U.S. you can. Not so in China.
One day, I caught some girls trimming their bangs in class with manicure scissors.
Part of the boredom is that these kids can’t speak English. I’m supposed to teach composition when they probably aren’t sure what “composition” means. This makes it frustrating when the kids need some good, old-fashioned ESL, and the school wants them to write sophisticated essays and read classic literature. The best school I taught at was a little more demanding, but even then, the students got to bring notes to the final exams.
When I asked one school how the students’ English levels were, they replied, “they’ve been studying English since first grade.” But how WELL did they study? I’ve studied Spanish since I was five, but I am STILL not fluent.
Learning about Louis Braille
I have been punished for not being “unique” in terms of my teaching methods/supplies, but also criticized for following curriculum they gave me when I asked them for something to work from. I usually appreciate a textbook, or PowerPoint slides, but also have activities that relate to what the class is about. In short, I’m doing what I think is right and different. One of my college classes got to try writing braille in order to learn about Louis Braille and how his invention revolutionized blind people and their ability to communicate.
I think now I am in a position where I can do more interesting things and activities because the English level is pretty good. And that makes teaching fun.
Teaching in China is not like teaching in the United States.
Obscene Kahoot Nicknames
You WILL have disrespectful students who will work your name into a sexual act as a nickname when you play Kahoot because they know you don’t speak the language. Luckily, the students at my current school are great. I don’t expect them to do anything terrible.
Things might be different for you. You might end up at a really good school who appreciates creativity, with kind, supportive co-workers and great resources.
Oh, and one school had a resource room, but decided not to show me where it was until just a couple weeks before school ended. I spent the entire school year wishing I had some good texts. Finally, I was asked if I’d like to see the resource room. I said, “of course” and found a treasure trove of books that would have been a great help to me several months ago.
But it was too late.
Part one: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/10/thinking-of-leaving-the-u-s-this-is-how-i-did-it/
Part two: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/11/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part three: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/12/i-moved-overseas-five-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part four: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/13/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it-2/
Part five: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/14/i-left-the-country-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
I moved overseas years ago–Here’s how I did it: Some Random Facts about China
Salt, Pepper, Soap, Washrooms, Toilet Paper and Egg Crates
Random Things About China
There is no salt or pepper on restaurant tables. If you can’t live without these seasonings, bring your own.
Bring your own soap. Washrooms might not have it.
Bring your own toilet paper.
You can’t flush toilet paper. Throw it away.
Plastic egg crates make awesome ice cube trays. Reduce, reuse, recycle!
Thrift Stores, Ice, Tap Water, Warm Drinking Water, and Riding Public Transportation
Thrift stores don’t really exist here. With the massive economic growth in the past 40-50 years, you wouldn’t want to buy used stuff either.
That being said, the malls are amazing! In Xiamen there was one with a horseback riding school, with a cute little café. And no need to buy equipment, it’s covered in the cost of your lesson, INCLUDING INSURANCE!
Ice in restaurants is rare.
They will most likely serve you warm drinking water.
Tap water is not drinkable. Either boil it, get a filter, or buy bottled.
No free refills. So if you are like me and drink two soft drinks with each meal, order accordingly.
If you go out to eat with a group of people, one person will pay for everyone. Please ask the host what your share of the bill is. Even splitting checks between two people will most likely get you strange looks from the servers.
People will bump into you or nudge past you without an “excuse me.” Don’t get salty about it.
People sometimes don’t wait in line and will cut in front of you. Again, just relax.
When getting on a bus or subway, go for the nearest seat quickly. There’s an art to riding public transportation.
Eggs, Exploring, Street Vendors, Fruit, Veggies, and the “subway station right near my apartment”
You’ll have to do a lot of exploring on your own to find stuff. Take a day or two and ride the bus and make a note of what street you are on and what shops/businesses you want to try out.
Lots of people sell stuff on the street. It’s entirely possible to get a week’s worth of groceries from street vendors.
You can buy one egg here or as many as you want.
Thoroughly WASH your fruits and vegetables. Avoid eating fruit/veggies already cut up.
I was told about a subway station right near my apartment. When I went looking for it, the subway station was under construction. When I moved two and a half years later, it was STILL under construction. So beware when the people at your new job talk about all the amenities the neighborhood has.
Loneliness, Broken Sidewalks, Food Poisoning, and IG
Get used to being lonely. I’ve tried reaching out to expats, but I haven’t had much luck. That being said, the expats I consider my friends are really great.
Be prepared for broken, uneven, or nonexistent sidewalks.
Be prepared for uneven surfaces everywhere
Depending on where you go, if you are western, you might be asked to take a picture. Westerners are novelties. If you are in the mood, take a picture and smile! I always do.
I had food poisoning five times in my first year, but you may not be so unlucky.
Take hand sanitizer/wipes with you. Always wash your hands whenever you get a chance.
Yes, a lot of websites are “banned” here, but a lot of people seem to have access to them. I had to chuckle when a student asked me for my IG account.
I Want to Have a Look
Public restrooms are available on the street and for the most part they are clean and free of graffiti. The toilets flush when you open the door to leave.
If you are white, people will assume you have money. It makes it hard to just browse, especially if you have no intention of buying. “Wo xian kan kan” basically means, “I want to have a look.” It’s probably the first and most useful phrase I learned here.
You can have KFC delivered. And some KFCs are open 24/7!
If you’re skin isn’t white, you may have a tougher time getting a job, or a hotel room. As a middle-aged white woman, no one gives me any trouble.
Take your passport everywhere if you can. You may be asked for it, especially if you want to travel, or buy medicine, or send something through the mail.
All the cities I have lived in, if you’re deciiiiiiding, on where to go…
Of the cities I have lived in, here are my brief takes, if you are deciding where to go:
Beijing—Capital city! But freaking HUGE. People are polite. Lots of history and culture. More expensive. Good food. But too big and too cold for me. Think Vermont/Minnesota/Manitoba type cold when it comes to winter.
Guangzhou—Beautiful riverfront. Authentic southern food from 13 Factories (owner was raised in the American south). Wholesale capital of China. Great food, western or Chinese. People are sort of New York-ish. I was grunted at several times after I thanked and said goodbye to my Didi drivers. U.S. consulate is here. The Shunde hotel is a decent place to stay if you want to visit and close to where the action is. Be prepared for overcast skies for months on end. They have a couple of Ikeas here, I think.
Fuzhou—Still getting to know the capital of Fujian province. Very pretty, lots of trees, flowers, and other plants. There is an Ikea here on the east side of town. A subway can take you there for a dollar or so. University City (where I live) has tons of restaurants and bargain eyewear. I got two pair of glasses, one regular one sunglasses for less than $100. Avoid LensCrafters if at all possible. I got soaked by the one in Guangzhou for $1400 USD. NEVER AGAIN.
Xiamen—The first and the favorite. The vibe reminds me of my hometown of Fort Wayne, Indiana. People are nice, laid-back and not pretentious. It’s like living in a garden. Part island, part mainland. Seems more expat-friendly in terms of groups, activities and western restaurants to choose from. I’ve liked some aspect of every city I’ve been to, but Xiamen will probably always be my favorite. I’ve met the most people there, and made the most friends there.
Square Dancing
Square dancing is popular here, but it’s different than in the states. Here, it looks like one big flash mob of ladies (it’s mostly ladies) dancing out on public in a handy park, or plaza, or wherever is big enough to have 30-40 people line up and dance. There are also couples doing all sorts of dances.
People seem more concerned about fitness and health here.
Western clothing stores like H&M and Uniqlo have extra large, but that’s as far as it can go. I’ve lived here for years and have NEVER seen any plus-size stores. You can order online, but even the 5XL is more like a two or three XL. Either pack plenty of clothes, or drop some weight, ya fatty.
Late to the party???
Part one: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/10/thinking-of-leaving-the-u-s-this-is-how-i-did-it/
Part two: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/11/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part three: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/12/i-moved-overseas-five-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part four: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/13/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it-2/
Part five: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/14/i-left-the-country-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
I Left the Country Years Ago–Here’s How I Did It
Consider Living Abroad
My journey so far—
So I have been here for five years. I don’t want to go into too much detail, but it hasn’t been easy here. Other things have been.
Some of you may consider living abroad and teaching for a few years; some of you might want to make it permanent. I know I have been thinking about my next steps. I am not sure if I want to teach, but if I can, I will certainly consider online or F2F teaching when I get too old to teach in China. Sadly, that is coming up shortly.
I am very hard on myself, but I think my friends would describe me as really strong (and stubborn) about sticking it out here in China. My goal was to stay here until I turn 60, and then come back home. I may still do that, but I may also consider teaching somewhere else.
Good things about living in China
So what are some of the good things about living in China? Here’s how:
Lower cost of living: The most I ever paid for an apartment was $910 in Beijing for a gorgeous two bedroom 10 minutes away from my school. The cheapest was $392. That was in Xiamen. If you are on the island, you’ll get less for your money. Right now, I have free rent because the school is providing the apartment, which is brand-new and about a 45 minute walk to my classroom. Depending on what I buy, groceries for one person can range from $28 a week to $56 a week.
Mass transportation: The bus costs anywhere from 14 cents to 28 cents. Subway rides are based on how far you are going. But I’ve never paid more than seven yuan for a subway ride, which is around 98 cents. Didi (Chinese Uber) rides vary of course depending on time and day. Probably the most I paid was when I hired a Didi to go to the Great Wall. I don’t know how much it was, but it took around an hour and a half to go from my southeast Beijing apartment to the Great Wall on a weekday.
Thyroid meds and Metformin are available OTC
I can buy my thyroid and metformin over the counter here. I think I pay maybe $15 total for a box of each.
Healthcare: I have used the private clinics here as well as the hospitals. If you use a hospital, you pay at each station you have to go to. They have cards you can buy at the hospital that you can put money on, then as you go to each department, you pay them via the card. My friend ended up in the hospital for two weeks and every day, they stood at the end of her bed and showed her how much she owed. I would consider getting expat health insurance, although your employer might have a plan for you.
Sam’s Club is Here, Too
Food: You will find plenty of McDonald’s, KFC, and Starbucks here. There are also thousands of little places to get authentic Chinese food. Baopals.com is where to go to get goodies from home. Olé is a fancy grocery story with a lot of western foods, and generally better quality meats. Metro is a German-based big box style retailer that sort of looks like Sam’s Club or Costco. They sell stuff in giant quantities. And Sam’s Club is here too.
There’s more, but I am not sure how deep in depth to go with it publicly. I will try to talk about what it’s like to teach in China as carefully as I can. But that’s a post for later.
Late to the party?
Part one:https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/10/thinking-of-leaving-the-u-s-this-is-how-i-did-it/
Part two:https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/11/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part three:https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/12/i-moved-overseas-five-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
Part four:https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/13/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it-2/
I Moved Overseas Years Ago–Here’s How I Did It
Students on the Spectrum
Some Don’ts about Teaching in China
If you have a student on the spectrum in your class, don’t point it out to administration. I did, and lost my job. Instead, if you can possibly work one-on-one with this student, do so. I have had three students on the spectrum. I didn’t point out the third one, but it was obvious to others he related to things and people a bit differently.
As much as it hurts, don’t single out someone who is on the spectrum. Work with them frequently if you can. I was making progress with a student who was a disciplinary problem, but could concentrate for hours on an art project. However, just as I felt I was making a breakthrough, they promoted him to the next grade and I never worked with him after that.
Don’t mention Tiananmen, Taiwan, or Tibet. Also, be careful of the maps you use and ask if there are any maps the school would like you to use, especially depicting Asia.
Don’t mention religion. If a textbook references religion, ask administration if it’s okay to talk about world religions and their importance. Don’t emphasize one religion over another. If they say skip that chapter, skip it.
Keep Religion Out of It
Don’t organize a Halloween party or Christmas party without seeing if it’s okay first. Halloween seems to be celebrated more, but still ask. Same with Christmas. They might say a “winter party” is okay. Keep religion out of it, no matter how religious you are.
Ask about classroom curriculum policy. Some may not want you to show videos. Some may be okay with videos as homework.
Don’t rely on the school’s internet to work whenever you want it to. If showing videos, download them first so it won’t matter if the internet poops out. If you use the internet for a classroom activity, be sure to have a backup if the internet goes down.
Don’t get too attached to your students.
Don’t get too involved with a student. The culture is different here. A student with a learning disability or who is physically/mentally handicapped is seen as shameful. It could be interpreted as being punished for the sins of an ancestor. No, I’m not joking. Check it out here: chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglclefindmkaj/https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ921178.pdf. Or go to the U.S. Department of Education and search for “The Invisibles.”
Absued at Home
Some kids are being abused at home. You can’t really do anything except be there for the student. That’s probably the hardest part about teaching here. One of my current students either IS or WAS a cutter. I’ve seen the marks on her arms.
Don’t Spend a Lot on Your Classroom
Don’t spend a lot on equipment/supplies for your classroom. Live pets are a bad idea. Sometimes, they are looked at as toys, and the children play with them accordingly. Get battery-operated pets/insects if you don’t want any dead/abused animals in your classroom. This is not my own personal experience, but a former colleague’s experience.
Don’t bring anything special into your classroom and expect the students to treat it with respect. Also, prepare for your room to be “cleaned” at any moment and all of your materials, school-purchased, and personally purchased, to vanish.
Don’t get too attached to expats. Or your co-workers.
Don’t start drinking. It’s very easy to get bored and lonely and pick up the bottle. An occasional drink is fine, but foreign teachers have a rep for being alcoholics.
Don’t be offended if they ask you if you are married and have kids. That’s a big deal here. Family is big here.
Late to the party? Catch up here:
I Moved Overseas Five Years Ago–Here’s How I Did It
Some Don’ts about Teaching In China
If you have a student on the spectrum in your class, don’t point it out to administration. I did, and lost my job. Instead, if you can possibly work one-on-one with this student, do so. I have had three students on the spectrum. I didn’t point out the third one, but it was obvious to others he related to things and people a bit differently.
Don’t mention Tiananmen, Taiwan, or Tibet. Also, be careful of the maps you use and ask if there are any maps the school would like you to use, especially depicting Asia.
Don’t Mention Religion
Don’t mention religion. If a textbook references religion, ask administration if it’s okay to talk about world religions and their importance. Don’t emphasize one religion over another. If they say skip that chapter, skip it.
Don’t organize a Halloween party or Christmas party without seeing if it’s okay first. Halloween seems to be celebrated more, but still ask. Same with Christmas. They might say a “winter party” is okay. Keep religion out of it, no matter how religious you are.
Ask about classroom curriculum policy. Some may not want you to show videos. Some may be okay with videos as homework.
Don’t Rely on the School’s Internet
Don’t rely on the school’s internet to work whenever you want it to. If showing videos, download them first so it won’t matter if the internet poops out. If you use the internet for a classroom activity, be sure to have a backup if the internet goes down.
As much as it hurts, don’t single out someone who is on the spectrum. Work with them frequently if you can. I was making progress with a student who was a disciplinary problem, but could concentrate for hours on an art project. However, just as I felt I was making a breakthrough, they promoted him to the next grade and I never worked with him after that.
Don’t get too attached to your students.
Physical and Mental Handicapped Individuals are seen as Shameful
Don’t get too involved with a student. The culture is different here. A student with a learning disability or who is physically/mentally handicapped is seen as shameful. It could be interpreted as being punished for the sins of an ancestor. No, I’m not joking. Check it out here: chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglclefindmkaj/https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ921178.pdf. Or go to the U.S. Department of Education and search for “The Invisibles.”
Some kids are being abused at home. You can’t really do anything except be there for the student. That’s probably the hardest part about teaching here. One of my current students either IS or WAS a cutter. I’ve seen the marks on her arms.
Live Pets are a Bad Idea
Don’t spend a lot on equipment/supplies for your classroom. Live pets are a bad idea. Sometimes, they are looked at as toys, and the children play with them accordingly. Get battery-operated pets/insects if you don’t want any dead/abused animals in your classroom. This is not my own personal experience, but a former colleague’s experience.
Don’t bring anything special into your classroom and expect the students to treat it with respect. Also, prepare for your room to be “cleaned” at any moment and all of your materials, school-purchased, and personally purchased, to vanish.
Don’t Get Too Attached to Expats, Co-workers, or the Bottle
Don’t get too attached to expats. Or your co-workers.
Don’t start drinking. It’s very easy to get bored and lonely and pick up the bottle. An occasional drink is fine, but foreign teachers have a rep for being alcoholics.
Don’t be offended if they ask you if you are married and have kids. That’s a big deal here. Family is big here.
Late to the party? Part one here: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/10/thinking-of-leaving-the-u-s-this-is-how-i-did-it/
Part two here: https://nowaylaowai.home.blog/2024/11/11/i-moved-overseas-years-ago-heres-how-i-did-it/
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